everyone knows we are all brutalized by the news. by means of our devices we hear things we would not discuss in public. now we do know we are all thinking about these things because we have the same devices. and because these sad things are everywhere and around us and inside us now we begin to talk about them to each other. at first we are in shame and we say them tentatively. but soon we enjoy the feelings they bring. We crave embarrassment. our children find all this quite fun. they love it when we embarrass ourselves in front of them.